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Looking for Love Online? – 6 Pros & Cons of Digital Dating

What a time to be alive! A few clicks and a swipe and you’ve found true love — or at least, true lust? Digital dating is not some passing phase. Studies show that at least one-fifth of Internet users have tried a dating app. The concept is entrenched already and the results, well…the results are mixed. Like anything that deals with affairs of the heart, there are pros and cons. 6 Cons of Digital Dating 1. Deception The truth is out there…but where? Digital profiles leave plenty of room for, um, improvisation? Age, height, weight, relationship status, and more — all [...]

By |2020-07-25T20:27:00+00:00May 22nd, 2020|Couples Counseling, Individual Therapy|

Sex Addiction: How Recovery Groups Can Be Valuable Resources

When you feel as though your sexual thoughts or behaviors are out of control, it’s time to seek help. Recovery is often a long process, and it’s not uncommon to feel overwhelmed when you believe you have to go through it alone. The good news is that sex addiction is treatable. Recovery can occur when you acknowledge that you have a problem and need help. While things like therapy and some outpatient services can be helpful, recovery groups serve as a significant resource for sex addicts, as well. Let’s find out why they’re so beneficial. Anonymous Groups Provide a Safe Space [...]

By |2020-07-25T20:28:12+00:00May 22nd, 2020|Individual Therapy|

Why Premarital Counseling?

Written by: Caitlin Edwards.   I was talking to a friend recently about our practice and I mentioned that we offer premarital counseling.  They were surprised and asked why couples would need to come to therapy if they were just starting out and did not experience any issues or problems.  This led to me to think that this might be a question from other people, our clients included.  So, in typical therapist fashion, I’m going to answer this question with additional questions: Is your relationship in peak condition? Many couples feel ready to get married about two to three years into [...]

By |2020-07-25T20:28:44+00:00April 21st, 2020|Premarital Therapy|

A Relationship Guide to Quarantine

Written by: Caitlin Edwards.   One of my friends shared a tweet with me yesterday and, although I can’t remember the exact wording, I believe it went something like this: I long for the days when my work wife and my wife wife were different people.  Humor aside, it feels important to name that we are experiencing our relationships in a new way as a result of either being in close quarters or worrying about our working partners in whole new ways. Increased proximity and/or increased distance and uncertainty can strain relationships.  The pandemic has added a level of stress to [...]

By |2020-07-25T20:29:37+00:00April 16th, 2020|Individual Therapy|

How to Connect While We Distance

Written by: Courtney Kershaw.   It’s no secret that in times of stress we turn those closest to us for comfort. What is perhaps different these days is how close those people are. With social distancing and stay-at-home regulations, we are in uncharted territory when it comes to connecting. Some people that we used to spend the majority of our days with can only be accessed through a screen, and some people we only used to see right as we woke up or right before bed are now in the next room 24/7 (or the same room--shout out to all my [...]

By |2020-07-25T20:30:28+00:00April 15th, 2020|Couples Counseling, Individual Therapy|

Do you provide couples counseling for same-sex and transgender couples?

In a word – absolutely!  I absolutely love providing couples counseling for same-sex and transgender couples.  And it surprises me how many couples therapists out there either don’t want to, or don’t feel qualified to work with the LGBT community.  One of the things I love about Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) and attachment theory (in which EFT is largely rooted), is that it provides great latitude for therapists to work with whatever unique issues a couple brings into the therapy room.  But EFT and attachment theory also recognize that the underlying causes of a couple’s distress is rooted in feeling insecurely [...]

By |2020-07-25T20:31:39+00:00March 3rd, 2015|Couples Counseling|

HELP! My Husband Doesn’t Want to Have Sex

What does it mean if my husband doesn't want to have sex?  Is there something wrong with him?  Is there something wrong with me?  The answer to both is... Probably not!  However, if you came to see me in in my couples practice, my first question would be "what do you mean when you say he doesn't want sex?" The Higher Desire Partner Do you mean he doesn't want sex as often as you do? If this is the case, it's not surprising. Generally, in most healthy relationships, one partner is the “higher desire” partner who wants sex more often than [...]

By |2020-07-25T20:32:25+00:00March 6th, 2014|Couples Counseling|

Blending families: A Merger, Not a Hostile-Takeover

Blending two families can be both challenging and rewarding. You might be facing questions like, “How do I parent my new partner’s kids?” or “How do I support my children through this transition?” Here are a few strategies that have proved successful in my work with couples and families as they navigate this process. Tread lightly when entering into a family with children.  Just as a biological parenting relationship grows over time, a step-parenting relationship must grow over time as well.  Don’t try to rush it.  The more naturally you allow your relationship with your new or prospective step-children to grow, [...]

By |2020-07-25T20:33:08+00:00January 1st, 2014|Family Therapy|

Emotional Affairs. Everyone needs friends, right?

When is a friend not just a friend? When can a “friendship” be threatening to a marriage? Most people think of an affair as having sex with someone outside of your marriage. More and more attention, however, is now being paid to “emotional affairs” that are not overtly sexual, but are still potentially damaging to your marriage. What is An "Emotional Affair?" Defining an emotional affair can be tricky. Here are some indicators that your “friendship” might not be as innocent as you think. Do you keep the details of your friendship secret from your partner? Maybe you've told your partner [...]

By |2020-07-25T20:34:19+00:00December 15th, 2013|Couples Counseling, Infidelity Therapy|

Should you Stay Together for the Kids?

This question is almost guaranteed to be pondered by every parent with children who is contemplating divorce.  Don't think that just because you try to "stick it out" for the kids that they will be happier.  If you can't figure out how to have a happy house, it's not best for anybody.  Kids know and feel the energy around them.  Even if you aren't fighting, your child can feel the tension. What messes kids up is not feeling safe with their parents and not having a sense of security -- in or out of the context of marriage.  When parents aren't [...]

By |2020-07-25T20:38:41+00:00November 30th, 2013|Couples Counseling, Family Therapy|